Common Questions
BiPhoria has been running for over eight years now and so we have seen
some questions come up regularly in letters to the group, phone calls
and emails. So to tackle a few of them...
My family / partner doesn't know about my sexuality. Will I have
to come out?
No - it's a confidential space. Who attends and what is said remains anonymous.
I'm a bit scared and not sure where I'm going - can someone meet
me beforehand?
Yes, we can arrange this. Call the phoneline on 07941 811 124 at around 6pm on
the evening of the group meeting, and someone (usually Matt or Jen) will try
to arrange to meet you elsewhere in the city centre. Be sure to leave your number
and let us know how discreet we need to be when returning the call e.g. if you
live with a partner who doesn't know.
What's this about new members space?
From 7.30pm to 8pm at each group meeting there's a new members space where you
can find out basic things about the group, bisexuality and the bi community,
and ask any questions you may have. The new members space is usually run by
Jen.
What actually happens at a BiPhoria group meeting?
After the new members space the group kicks off with brief introductions. We
then go through the month's post, and will discuss upcoming bi or bi-friendly
events. Then what we do from about 8.30 to 9.30 varies - sometimes a guest speaker
attends or we have a group discussion on a particular topic. This is usually
followed by going to one of the quieter pubs in the gay village where we will
all sit about and chat (that part is of course optional)!
My partner and I want to find a third person to join us in bed -
will we find someone at BiPhoria?
Probably not, that's not what the group is about. Many of the people at the group
are in monogamous relationships, or choosing not to sleep with anyone - they
won't welcome your advances! It's a space for making friends and getting to be
comfortable about who you are, not a space for chatting people up.
